7 Relatively Unknown But Very Powerful Vim Features

Most guys know about the nice guy paradox. It’s where they’ve been told
since they were young — both by women and by society in general — that women
like “nice” guys. And because they’ve been told this over and over, most
guys grow up trying this approach only to have reality kick them in the
groin.

This bothers guys. A lot. Why would women claim to want someone who will
treat them nice, but then repeatedly turn down or mistreat those that give
them exactly what they claim to want? Well, I have the answer, and like most
major truisms it’s pretty simple:

Women like when guys are nice to them, but only when they don’t have to be.

Think about that. Most guys exclusively using the “nice” approach are
doormats, and many are so because that’s all they can be. They lack the
attributes to attract a woman based on pure gravity (physical
size/strength/prowess, ambition, sexuality, intelligence, money, etc.). As a
result, these guys are essentially forced to grovel in order to attract a
mate, which is patently unattractive.

Quite simply, women like powerful men to be nice to them, not
feminized pseudo-men. A weak man being nice to a woman is essentially an act
of submission, like a beggar bowing his head and calling you sir. Sure, they
were respectful to you, but they just asked you for money so it’s not as
meaningful as if it came from a peer or superior.

To get the true benefit of “nice” in the way that women enjoy, one has to be
able to attract that same woman without being nice, i.e. by the sheer
force of character.
Only once that foundation of primal respect is in place can the
higher-order offerings such as kindness be appreciated. It’s counter-intuitive and it’s unpleasant, but we’re dealing with nature
here. Don’t fight the rules. To do so is as pointless as picketing gravity
or boycotting inertia.

May 8, 2007

Notes

1. There’s a book called Models, which has a subtitle of Attract Women
   Through Honesty.

2. Feb 15, 2019 — This piece seriously irks me, but I would feel strange
   changing it at this point. I agree with the idea of course, but the way
   it’s written just seems gross to me 12 years later. Apologies to the
   world for my more primitive self.